So anyways, I realize this post is 12 days late and maybe it’s irrelevant now. Better late than never.
2020 took me for a ride, and it seems like 2021 is starting off even weirder. My best friend said it best, my life is like a reality TV show at times. So the “21 lessons I learned in 2021” post will be a real showstopper apparently.
These are things that I wish I knew heading into 2020. I learned the hard way, so maybe I’ll save you some trouble. Or not, I vouch that trouble is just part of character development.
BONUS: It’s never too late to reflect.
- Hurt people hurt people.
- How two lane roundabouts actually work.
- Self-reflection is an extremely underrated yet paramount skill to have and to engage in daily.
- Breaking generational trauma/healing is so hard and something that a lot of people don’t see, but it will benefit you in the long run.
- If you’re even somewhat money-conscious, paying for your own gym membership can be a source of motivation in itself.
- It’s perfectly acceptable to be a bitch, just not all the time and for no good reason. Have a reason and stand up for yourself dammit, you can’t expect other people to have your best interest. Stop being a pushover.
- Sometimes you are the bad guy in someone’s story, but you can’t get too caught up in how your actions (which are hopefully truly benefitting you) negatively affect others.
- If you don’t ask the answer is always no. Again, stand up for yourself.
- Know the difference between a true guy friend and a guy friend who has other intentions. Guys don’t always perceive the friendzone as their destination, it’s more of a right of passage to lead to more.
- Know when it’s time to leave. Leave the party, leave the person, leave the job. If the shoe fits…
- Multiple streams of income are always a good idea.
- Even if it doesn’t seem like it, there is someone out there that you’ll meet on a whim and you’ll instantly feel the same level of comfort and ease. You’ll feel the smallest twinge of hope again.
- When entering a situationship, honesty and transparency upfront (both with yourself and your partner) is key.
- Take the saying “if they wanted to, they would” with a grain of salt. How many times did you want to do something but you didn’t follow through?
- Go to bed early. Don’t even give the 2am loneliness a chance.
- Use the Pomodoro technique when you have a lot of homework, especially papers/projects.
- Roster dating isn’t for everyone. It’s perfectly okay to just date one person at a time. It doesn’t mean you’re lame or that you couldn’t have options if you wanted to. Your time is precious and you don’t need to waste it on multiple partners.
- However, a hoe phase never hurt nobody. But you didn’t hear it from me!
- Just shoot your shot with someone. Rejection isn’t the worst thing in the world. YOLO
- You’ll never regret a workout.
XO
MACK
The Mackadamia Nut 